Making your Game Effective

{ April 25, 2009 @ 11:42 pm } · { Attraction/DHV }
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Damn fellas, that was a long hiatus – with the bad economy and all, I guess nobody’s had time to game…and frankly I’ve just been too busy shower jerking to give a shit.

But I’ve been scouring the party scene recently, and let me let you in on the one piece of game advice that I think can really make a difference.  As you all know, the art of gaming is really about not gaming or at least coming off like you’re not gaming.  That’s why when we go into a party full of Bangable Bitches, and we run dialogue like this (censored for precaution), we get mediocre results:

THE DOG:  “Hi, I’m Ma——. I’m thinking of throwing my friend a birthday party. Which do you think would be better: a jungle theme or a 70’s theme?”
FAT SLUT: “Maybe I would go with the…”
THE DOG:  (interrupting) “What kind of toppings do you like on your pizza? Don’t you think pepperoni is a really funny word? I think it’s a funny word.”
FAT SLUT: “Uh…sure”
THE DOG:  “Where do you go to school? I’ll just say that I go to ——–”.
FAT SLUT: (turning to her friend) “I have to gtfo of here. Nice meeting you.”
THE DOG:  (turning to THE BIG T) “Did you just check out my mad game? I’m soooo PIMP! I’m probably the best PUA of all of us!”
THEBIGT: “You is a bangbus ass clown son.”

The point is this: If you want to build attraction, you need to CHILL THE FUCK OUT.  This might seem obvious, but seriously reflect on your past experiences in the field.  I can think of plenty of times when each of us (myself included) has gotten hyperactive in set just trying to win a chick over or keep a dying conversation alive.  All this bullshit really comes off as DESPERATE.  Don’t be some uptight, conversation-monging douche bag – keep it cool like Snoop Dogg.  Honestly, I have found that sometimes just letting the conversation die out and having an awkward moment of silence is not such a bad thing…and it gives the girl a chance to break the ice (which I read as a major IOI).   Not to mention, you might be surprised at some of the conversation threads that she’ll bring up herself if you give her the chance.

Recently, I’ll just say that I had the opportunity to game this way with a homie of mine on the west side.  We sat in these two chairs just looking like “teh shit” and not saying much.  Dude, those ‘itches were gaming us!  I took one of them on a ride to DICKS ‘R US and banged her out pornpros style in the shower.  So if you’re out there reading this THE DOG, stop gaming like some cash-strapped hobo, and get your shit calmed the fuck down if you ever want to get blowbanged from an HB greater than a 5.

I’ve Had the Last 4 Posts!

{ January 15, 2009 @ 2:03 am } · { Uncategorized }
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Yo T, you still in this? You do remember a little thing called “The Game” right? If you want change you gotta be in this 100%… Don’t fall behind!

The Pigeon Hole Principle & How it Relates to The Game

{ January 15, 2009 @ 2:00 am } · { Uncategorized }
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Well gentlemen, the past few weeks I have been taking some rather drastic steps to build value. The results, as predicted have been positive. Plans I have outlined for the future will also bring greater success. Not a moment of sarging is even required as I have done none! And… I hope you guys have made similar plans to build your perceived value over the next few months if not years. Which leads me to the main point I want to make. This is perhaps the hardest aspect to overcome as we travel on the path to PUA’s. The subject of this post is quite simply: Change.

Luckily for myself I have only had a moderate amount of resistance when changing my image from lower value to higher value. However, it was/is not an easy road. Why is then that we are so adverse to changing our image, habits, and actions for the better? Some suggest that it is largely part of our brain and that we posses regions that constantly reference the past (similar to reptiles). Survival perhaps? While we might be very past based in our genetic makeup, I disagree that this is the main contributing factor. The principle I have researching is known as the pigeon hole principle. This principle states that individuals form very quick and concrete perceptions about you and that these are very hard to alter. So you might ask… How does this relate to change? Well, if you have portrayed yourself as an AFC in front of others and your peers then they will treat you as such. Thus, reinforcing your AFC behavior. Even when you make a push to change, they will still have the same perceptions about you and still treat you as an AFC even if you are acting as a PUA. Which leads right to regression. Have you ever noticed yourself changing and found that you only slip back into the way you were previously? That frustrated state? This is why.

So the ultimate takeaway point here is: People treat you based on how they perceive/have perceived you. This causes you to be influenced by the way they treat you. So if you’ve been treated like an AFC by other’s then you will most likely exhibit this behavior. This is a very dangerous cycle that we get caught up in and must break. My suggestion to break this cycle is to alter people’s perception of you by the following: Changing your clothing style, your physical movements (walk like an AMOG), the way you talk, your overall physical demeanor, and anything else which relates to your perceived value. There are tons out there that I can’t think of right now…

And most importantly: BUILD VALUE!!!

Forget Sargin~ Building Value is Key

{ January 3, 2009 @ 9:08 pm } · { Uncategorized }
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So it was just the other night that I was struck with another one of my revelations. We need to prioritize, first things first and it goes something like this- How many attempts have we made to pickup chicks at bars and other venues? Then consider- how many were successful versus how many were not? Chances are that our success rate could be as low as 1%. In addition, what defines success? Is it a number close or perhaps a date? Regardless, the variable underlying success following this 1% is even less. I am about to introduce you guys to a concept that has never been considered in the realm of sargin’ (well at least not between us). The concept is conversion. That is, what our success rate is based on the number of attempts and more specifically what is the optimal way to increase such a figure… Well, if our way would have it we could continue to sarge until we gain a marginal amount of success. But after a year of being in the field I have found that no matter how many times you sarge won’t mean shit if you don’t have value. Value is key here guys. And I fear we have wasted our time in bars because we are missing this one key ingredient. My proposal for us to move further is to not focus on so much, the art of picking up chicks but rather on doing things which build value for us. For instance: working out, educating yourself in something interesting, doing a martial art, taking cooking classes, dance class, earning money to buy nice clothes and groom yourself well, the list goes on and on… I think this is a new and innovative approach plus it should be a sigh of relief for many of us who face anxiety with this type of practice. Given enough time to build value you will find many unique opportunities open up to meet women and in addition, many women will come to you! I like this new approach becuase I feel as if its more natural, less stressful, and more successful in the long run. So get out there and start having interesting experiences which prove your value! And a reminder for all of us- Don’t just sit around and wank… 1-up?

Restructuring Our Learning of The Game

{ December 11, 2008 @ 2:05 am } · { Uncategorized }
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Inspired by the one and only Tim Ferris, I have a proposal to make to you gentlemen. Since prime time to sarge (i.e. college) is running out its crunch time. Just like Tim Ferris we need to expand and accerlerate our learning processes so that we can become the best as quickly as possible. I have considered our current methods of learning how to sarge and came to the following conclusions. There is little structure and its all done in a parrallel fashion- meaning that everything is learned at once. The problem with this is the following: It is slow and often topics permeate into others creating confusion. Contrary to what me and The T used to think- That reading up on the game too much while not spending enough time in the field only created confusion, this may in fact be untrue. What it is instead, is the fact that when you read up on this material you are focussing on multiple topics at once. Which, permeate into one another and create confusion. My new proposed method is serial learning where topics are highly structured and ordered. This is basically the way our hero Tim Ferris is able to do amazing things in a short period of time. If you notice, its master one thing and move onto the next. So here is how we should be progressing through the game mastering each before moving onto the next:

FUNDAMENTALS
Identity
practice approaches
real approaches
fashion
voice
body language
Social Anxiety
Approach Anxiety
Conversational repertoire

PROCESSES
Dates
Escalation and sex
advanced social dynamics
same day lays
relationships
social circle game
club game
3somes
So how about it? Do Work!

Apathy =’s my Worst Enemy

{ November 26, 2008 @ 3:18 am } · { General Field Report, Uncategorized }
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Well now that I am noticeably “fit” allot of new opportunities have opened up for me (as predicted). They say that “people only see skin deep” and whomever said that, is absolutely right… This has been my first semester where the social experiment I have been performing has been put into full effect. So far people have tried to induct me into their social circle (the jacked guys), hot chicks have invited me to their parties, and women have been much more friendly and open towards me. Ones that didn’t notice me before, now glance at me as soon as I enter a room. They will also go out of their way to help me. Yet, despite all of my opportunities I just can’t bring myself to care enough. The truth is I don’t really want to bang out some random bitch and on the other hand I don’t really want a relationship either (and no, I’m not gay).

One thing I can takeaway from this whole experience is- this has certainly been an affirmation to how shallow women can be. Now, I have even less respect for them. Deep down I have observed their affinity for emotional drama (I have been directly involved in two instances in the past 2 months, If you guys recall me telling you about the fight over the spilled drink and the other chick I know who got offended and made a big deal out of something not important) and I find it stupid. The quote I got from Neil Strauss, “I don’t have time for drama or emotional hysterics” holds true. I really don’t… After playing both sides of the game- going from afc to someone who is noticed and hit on, I am disappointed with how women act these days.

Deep down I feel the desire to have/be in relationships is a social pressure. Not only are we driven to impress people we know (your friends) but that we also create an image of an acceptable “mate” who is well suited for reproduction. In addition, it is also important for people to brag about their accomplishments with women. Or something like that… Anyways, while it may be important for some people, its really not for me.

I plan to game on, but I certainly won’t be taking any women seriously. Annd yes, I will be objectifying them! Take that Teri Hassler!!! Anyway, all in all I feel as if the scenarious leading up to this have only added to my apathy over women. In fact, be very flattered when I say that the only people I really truly care for are you guys. Lets face it- There are very few women out there good enough for us after all, “We are THE PRIZE!”

GAME Officially UN-SUSPENDED

{ November 3, 2008 @ 9:16 pm } · { Uncategorized }
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Dear Mr. Big T. Esq,

I hereby declare your game officially unsuspended. So here’s the low down: Dino and I are both itching to get some quality game time in this winter break. That does not mean that we will be scrounging around movie theater lobbies and dark allies in Boston asking for chicks to blow us out. No sir. This time, we are going to make sure that this shit gets done right. I want us to devise a list of the top night clubs, lounges, bars, as well as prime locations for some high-level day game. I want us to travel all over the North East looking for some quality poon. That means we need material. We need to equip ourselves with the biggest arsenal of PUA books, DVDs, lecture tapes, and of course, we all need to one-up our current wardrobes. We need to get down our secret spot orgasm techniques, load up on lock-in props, canned openers, multi-stack routines, and those secret cameras they always have on the TV show. I want us to build a tight 1-month schedule of non-stop gaming. Every night, dozens of sets opened; every day, loads of day game opens and study-time spent rehearsing new material, using new props, and stacking new routines. This is no time to abandon our friend Erik von Markovik. Oh no, my friend – on this day we ride together. After all, WE’RE NOT GONNA LET THEM TAKE OUR BOTTLE OF TIPSY WELSHMAN, ARE WE MEN?

Game Temporarily Suspended

{ October 29, 2008 @ 5:20 pm } · { Uncategorized }
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I think I have mentioned this before, but probably not to all of you.  Dino mentioned it in his last post.  As of now my “gaming” is coming to a halt.  I am taking a break from it for now.  What does this mean?  I will still try to get girls of course, but organized routines/plans, as well as reading new material are now out.  Recently Dino and I were reading a post on Mystery’s forums called the “point of no return.”  There is an ideal ratio of 1 hour studying to 2 hours in the field.  If one goes way to far on the studying side, they’re in trouble.  I can relate.  Therefore, for now I will forget studying entirely and only work on field time.  I remember recently myself, S, Dino and M Dog were in the Norwalk bar scene and that did not go so well.  At the end of the night we said it was we did not have a “plan” and we were putting too much pressure on ourselves.  The second part I agree with but I’ve flip-flopped on the first part.  I think focusing on a “plan” adds to the pressure.  Honestly, openers are overrated if you ask me.  I went to a couple bars recently with a friend from college (he’s also read The Game.)  We opened sets pretty much with just “hi” and jumped right into a conversation.  Once they’re having fun they forget how you opened anyway, so I’m no longer putting surplus emphasis on that mostly unimportant aspect to the game.  Sure, its how it starts, but its where it goes from there that really counts.

I hope to someday return to “gaming” a wiser, more socially mobile man.  But, for now, as long as I’m going to social events that interest me, meet people and keep words flowing from my mouth, I’m just gonna let go.

A New Gaming Strategy

{ October 23, 2008 @ 4:40 am } · { Escalation }
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I have noticed that no one has posted on this blog in a while. So with that in mind I feel compelled to write a few of my recent thoughts. I think I can get a consensus here, so here is the question I will pose. Isn’t what we are looking for, in terms of the game A) Someone we can relate to on a level higher than sex and B) Someone we can be with for the long term. So after hearing T’s plan on simply forgetting routines and getting out there I had an idea. Let me begin by first saying; how about we go with the idea of forgetting routines for a moment and here’s why. Routines build attraction however, as Mystery has proved over and over again: You can build attraction with literally any woman you want. So in response to Mystery’s proven method I say. Why would you want to? Ok, so I can build attraction from some hot blonde but after I bang her a few times am I really going to enjoy her in my life? The answer is no, probably not. Stemming further from this point comes the notion of love at first site. Now think for a minute. When you fall in love with someone based on this concept what is missing? Yes, if you were thinking instant sexual attraction you are correct. There are two major concepts from which we decide to game a chick and here they are: lust and this “love at first site” theory. In fact, I feel that when you fall for someone based on love it tends to be more truthful than plain sexual attraction. So what do routines build? Thats right, sexual attraction between you and someone that you would probably never get along with… So I say. Screw the routines all together. If you fall in love with someone and they have the same feelings for you, you shouldn’t need to escalate or use any type of routine. Also, the groups/people you need to escalate with are not really worth it in the end. If you successfully escalate a woman you will find that there is no love but just a shallow level of lust. After banging her a few times you realize that the both of you have literally nothing in common and that perhaps you have both wasted your time and $50 on a cheap date. So my point is: Don’t waste your time escalating, if a girl doesn’t like you from the bat its not geniune love. So bounce from the set and try your luck with the other billions of women out there.

I would continue with more of my thoughts but 40 oz bounce just reased a new video so I have to go Fax the Pope, lataz…

AIM Conversation

{ September 29, 2008 @ 4:46 am } · { Online Dating, Strategies }
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Ok, I’m about to go to bed so I’ll keep this brief…I just had a talk on AIM with someone I had talked to a couple months ago on singlesnet.  We never met in person…but we talked several times on AIM and on the phone.  I had tried to arrange to meet her but it never worked out…we lost contact eventually.

She sent me an instant message tonight for the first time in months…I had never expected to hear from her again so this was a surprise, but I just played it cool and went with it.  We small talked a bit….I tried to arrange to meet her…then the games began.

She asked if I had a gf and said she didn’t want to be my seconds…then asked if we could be friends.

I played it cool…said I didn’t have a girlfriend and asked her to hang out again soon afterwards.

She then she had a bf.

I decided this may be a shit test…she did contact me for the first time in months out of the blue…seemed like an IOI.  I pressed to hang out with her…saying we could be friends (I was planning to take it further from there.)

She said her bf would be pissed at her if she did that.

I said her bf was a bad bf…after all, would she be pissed at him for plutonically talking to a girl?  Plus she AIMed me tonight and was now being all weird…this was bs.

She said she liked me before but was now in a good stable relationship.

Things were looking down.  I give her an ultimatum…if she wants to date me, declare it.  If she wants to be friends with me, declare it.  If she doesn’t want to see me period…don’t contact me or anything (like she did tonight…remember, she initiated the conversation.)

She told me I was “awesome” and “nice” and wanted to be friends.

I told her I was leaving but we could hang out sometime (as friends-if there was potential for more I could evaluate that when I meet her.)

She said she couldn’t.   Blah blah…bf…bs

After that I basically told her to fuck off.  I told her she could contact me later if she knew if she wanted to see me.  But I would not take any more bs…contacting me randomly then saying she couldn’t see me.  It was a pretty random, intense interaction and I really would like your thoughts on the whole thing…what she was doing and how I handled it.  Thoughts?

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