Ok, time for my first post on the new blog. I got a few things I want to talk about that went down this weekend. I’ll start from the beginning. On Friday night I was doing a project with a girl that I sort of know and another guy. She’s somewhat of an acquaintance right now-I met her about a year and a half ago, we’ve had a few good times, usually with other people around, but I haven’t really bonded with her one-on-one so I don’t think we’re in the LJBF phase.
Anyways, the other guy goes off and researches a different part of the project, leaving us isolated. While we’re doing the project, I sneak in small-talk, stories, comfort and DHVs and I think we start to get a connection.
Then she surprised me. “Do you hate me?” she asks. I’m like “what, no.” “Every time I pass by you on campus I say ‘hi’ and you say nothing back and have a ‘fuck you’ expression on your face.” “Oh, I must not’ve heard you.” I actually had no idea about that until she brought it up. I was amazed at the fact I had in some way made her self-conscious. I’ve traded a few texts with her since then. I hope to hang out with her sometime soon and ultimately date-close her.
Prospect Status: Up in the Air/Uncertain
Saturday night, my language partner invited me to her place and made me dinner. First we went shopping-she showed me the types of stuff you use to make authentic Chinese food. I told her about my job interviews. After we get to her place we sit for a bit then we make food and eat it. After that we spent a couple hours in her room on the computer. I practice some story-telling and negging. I felt like doing kino at times, but I didn’t since with her I’ve already overshot the 7-hour rule by 15+ hours and spent six with her tonight alone. I’m already inviting her back to my place sometime soon so I can cook an American meal for her, since she did a Chinese one for me.
Prospect Status: Doubtful, but I can use her as a live model to practice routines, openers, negs, DHVs, etc. on
Sunday afternoon I opened eleven sets in a day game setting. That may not seem like a lot, but it’s the most I’ve had recently. One of the worst feelings to get after you’ve began to undertake the game is the feeling like you’re plateauing and taking steps back. With a lot of homework and finals coming up, I started to get that feeling. I was a little disappointed in my performance when I visited S and I want to get some action when I visit Dino soon, so this was not good timing. This next week will be busy for me, but I can at least open ten or so sets a day and keep up with Stylelife. I feel like Kosmo now-starting to “get it,” The Game is what you put into it, if you hang in there long enough, good things can happen.
bigs34 Said:
on April 19, 2008 at 9:19 pm
Alright. Well it sounds to me like the girl you were doing the project with is seriously hooked. The fact that she perceived you were ignoring her (even though that wasn’t the case) and then felt passionate enough about it to bring it up as a serious concern, makes me think that you shouldn’t take this lightly. That was a serious IOI my friend, and you need to start escalating kino ASAP.
Don’t start feeling discouraged at this point of the game. Take it from me that this is BY FAR THE HARDEST PART. Getting the girl hooked is EVERYTHING. The rest is just reaping the benefits. I think you are on the right track with the project girl. My only comment is that it sounds like you are chickening out a little bit on the advances once you start getting solid IOIs. Fuck text-messaging. Set times to meet with her. Get her to come over and have a few drinks with you, etc… Once you start spending time alone together for personal reasons (aka drinking, hanging out), then you have established a claim to her that makes it acceptable, and in many ways expected for you to make a move on her.
Either way, let me know what goes down.
Hang in there T!