Ok, I’m about to go to bed so I’ll keep this brief…I just had a talk on AIM with someone I had talked to a couple months ago on singlesnet. We never met in person…but we talked several times on AIM and on the phone. I had tried to arrange to meet her but it never worked out…we lost contact eventually.
She sent me an instant message tonight for the first time in months…I had never expected to hear from her again so this was a surprise, but I just played it cool and went with it. We small talked a bit….I tried to arrange to meet her…then the games began.
She asked if I had a gf and said she didn’t want to be my seconds…then asked if we could be friends.
I played it cool…said I didn’t have a girlfriend and asked her to hang out again soon afterwards.
She then she had a bf.
I decided this may be a shit test…she did contact me for the first time in months out of the blue…seemed like an IOI. I pressed to hang out with her…saying we could be friends (I was planning to take it further from there.)
She said her bf would be pissed at her if she did that.
I said her bf was a bad bf…after all, would she be pissed at him for plutonically talking to a girl? Plus she AIMed me tonight and was now being all weird…this was bs.
She said she liked me before but was now in a good stable relationship.
Things were looking down. I give her an ultimatum…if she wants to date me, declare it. If she wants to be friends with me, declare it. If she doesn’t want to see me period…don’t contact me or anything (like she did tonight…remember, she initiated the conversation.)
She told me I was “awesome” and “nice” and wanted to be friends.
I told her I was leaving but we could hang out sometime (as friends-if there was potential for more I could evaluate that when I meet her.)
She said she couldn’t. Blah blah…bf…bs
After that I basically told her to fuck off. I told her she could contact me later if she knew if she wanted to see me. But I would not take any more bs…contacting me randomly then saying she couldn’t see me. It was a pretty random, intense interaction and I really would like your thoughts on the whole thing…what she was doing and how I handled it. Thoughts?
