Yo T, you still in this? You do remember a little thing called “The Game” right? If you want change you gotta be in this 100%… Don’t fall behind!
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The Pigeon Hole Principle & How it Relates to The Game
Well gentlemen, the past few weeks I have been taking some rather drastic steps to build value. The results, as predicted have been positive. Plans I have outlined for the future will also bring greater success. Not a moment of sarging is even required as I have done none! And… I hope you guys have made similar plans to build your perceived value over the next few months if not years. Which leads me to the main point I want to make. This is perhaps the hardest aspect to overcome as we travel on the path to PUA’s. The subject of this post is quite simply: Change.
Luckily for myself I have only had a moderate amount of resistance when changing my image from lower value to higher value. However, it was/is not an easy road. Why is then that we are so adverse to changing our image, habits, and actions for the better? Some suggest that it is largely part of our brain and that we posses regions that constantly reference the past (similar to reptiles). Survival perhaps? While we might be very past based in our genetic makeup, I disagree that this is the main contributing factor. The principle I have researching is known as the pigeon hole principle. This principle states that individuals form very quick and concrete perceptions about you and that these are very hard to alter. So you might ask… How does this relate to change? Well, if you have portrayed yourself as an AFC in front of others and your peers then they will treat you as such. Thus, reinforcing your AFC behavior. Even when you make a push to change, they will still have the same perceptions about you and still treat you as an AFC even if you are acting as a PUA. Which leads right to regression. Have you ever noticed yourself changing and found that you only slip back into the way you were previously? That frustrated state? This is why.
So the ultimate takeaway point here is: People treat you based on how they perceive/have perceived you. This causes you to be influenced by the way they treat you. So if you’ve been treated like an AFC by other’s then you will most likely exhibit this behavior. This is a very dangerous cycle that we get caught up in and must break. My suggestion to break this cycle is to alter people’s perception of you by the following: Changing your clothing style, your physical movements (walk like an AMOG), the way you talk, your overall physical demeanor, and anything else which relates to your perceived value. There are tons out there that I can’t think of right now…
And most importantly: BUILD VALUE!!!
Forget Sargin~ Building Value is Key
So it was just the other night that I was struck with another one of my revelations. We need to prioritize, first things first and it goes something like this- How many attempts have we made to pickup chicks at bars and other venues? Then consider- how many were successful versus how many were not? Chances are that our success rate could be as low as 1%. In addition, what defines success? Is it a number close or perhaps a date? Regardless, the variable underlying success following this 1% is even less. I am about to introduce you guys to a concept that has never been considered in the realm of sargin’ (well at least not between us). The concept is conversion. That is, what our success rate is based on the number of attempts and more specifically what is the optimal way to increase such a figure… Well, if our way would have it we could continue to sarge until we gain a marginal amount of success. But after a year of being in the field I have found that no matter how many times you sarge won’t mean shit if you don’t have value. Value is key here guys. And I fear we have wasted our time in bars because we are missing this one key ingredient. My proposal for us to move further is to not focus on so much, the art of picking up chicks but rather on doing things which build value for us. For instance: working out, educating yourself in something interesting, doing a martial art, taking cooking classes, dance class, earning money to buy nice clothes and groom yourself well, the list goes on and on… I think this is a new and innovative approach plus it should be a sigh of relief for many of us who face anxiety with this type of practice. Given enough time to build value you will find many unique opportunities open up to meet women and in addition, many women will come to you! I like this new approach becuase I feel as if its more natural, less stressful, and more successful in the long run. So get out there and start having interesting experiences which prove your value! And a reminder for all of us- Don’t just sit around and wank… 1-up?
Restructuring Our Learning of The Game
Inspired by the one and only Tim Ferris, I have a proposal to make to you gentlemen. Since prime time to sarge (i.e. college) is running out its crunch time. Just like Tim Ferris we need to expand and accerlerate our learning processes so that we can become the best as quickly as possible. I have considered our current methods of learning how to sarge and came to the following conclusions. There is little structure and its all done in a parrallel fashion- meaning that everything is learned at once. The problem with this is the following: It is slow and often topics permeate into others creating confusion. Contrary to what me and The T used to think- That reading up on the game too much while not spending enough time in the field only created confusion, this may in fact be untrue. What it is instead, is the fact that when you read up on this material you are focussing on multiple topics at once. Which, permeate into one another and create confusion. My new proposed method is serial learning where topics are highly structured and ordered. This is basically the way our hero Tim Ferris is able to do amazing things in a short period of time. If you notice, its master one thing and move onto the next. So here is how we should be progressing through the game mastering each before moving onto the next:
FUNDAMENTALS
Identity
practice approaches
real approaches
fashion
voice
body language
Social Anxiety
Approach Anxiety
Conversational repertoire
PROCESSES
Dates
Escalation and sex
advanced social dynamics
same day lays
relationships
social circle game
club game
3somes
So how about it? Do Work!
GAME Officially UN-SUSPENDED
Dear Mr. Big T. Esq,
I hereby declare your game officially unsuspended. So here’s the low down: Dino and I are both itching to get some quality game time in this winter break. That does not mean that we will be scrounging around movie theater lobbies and dark allies in Boston asking for chicks to blow us out. No sir. This time, we are going to make sure that this shit gets done right. I want us to devise a list of the top night clubs, lounges, bars, as well as prime locations for some high-level day game. I want us to travel all over the North East looking for some quality poon. That means we need material. We need to equip ourselves with the biggest arsenal of PUA books, DVDs, lecture tapes, and of course, we all need to one-up our current wardrobes. We need to get down our secret spot orgasm techniques, load up on lock-in props, canned openers, multi-stack routines, and those secret cameras they always have on the TV show. I want us to build a tight 1-month schedule of non-stop gaming. Every night, dozens of sets opened; every day, loads of day game opens and study-time spent rehearsing new material, using new props, and stacking new routines. This is no time to abandon our friend Erik von Markovik. Oh no, my friend – on this day we ride together. After all, WE’RE NOT GONNA LET THEM TAKE OUR BOTTLE OF TIPSY WELSHMAN, ARE WE MEN?
Game Temporarily Suspended
I think I have mentioned this before, but probably not to all of you. Dino mentioned it in his last post. As of now my “gaming” is coming to a halt. I am taking a break from it for now. What does this mean? I will still try to get girls of course, but organized routines/plans, as well as reading new material are now out. Recently Dino and I were reading a post on Mystery’s forums called the “point of no return.” There is an ideal ratio of 1 hour studying to 2 hours in the field. If one goes way to far on the studying side, they’re in trouble. I can relate. Therefore, for now I will forget studying entirely and only work on field time. I remember recently myself, S, Dino and M Dog were in the Norwalk bar scene and that did not go so well. At the end of the night we said it was we did not have a “plan” and we were putting too much pressure on ourselves. The second part I agree with but I’ve flip-flopped on the first part. I think focusing on a “plan” adds to the pressure. Honestly, openers are overrated if you ask me. I went to a couple bars recently with a friend from college (he’s also read The Game.) We opened sets pretty much with just “hi” and jumped right into a conversation. Once they’re having fun they forget how you opened anyway, so I’m no longer putting surplus emphasis on that mostly unimportant aspect to the game. Sure, its how it starts, but its where it goes from there that really counts.
I hope to someday return to “gaming” a wiser, more socially mobile man. But, for now, as long as I’m going to social events that interest me, meet people and keep words flowing from my mouth, I’m just gonna let go.
Cashier Encounter
So I’d like you guys’s opinion on something that just happened. I’m at work right now. I was on break and I was at the convenience store downstairs getting a red bull. There’s this girl that works there at the register I’ve had some conversation with before off-and-on, just normal situational stuff. So I asked her how her weekend was and addressed her by her first name. Then she asked me when I got off work-I said 5. She said she got off at 4. I said “lucky you” and she smirked. It ended there-there were people in line-but I see her like every day. So my question is about her asking me when I got off work…casual conversation?…or an IOI? What do you think?
Don’t Fantasize
Ever been so attracted to a girl you can’t say anything in front of her without screwing up? Ever get an obsession over a girl you’re trying to get with when there’s plenty more out there. Been there done that here. Here’s a little trick I’ve started to employ to try to combat this problem. Actually, its two rules that one should follow.
1. Don’t fantasize about chicks. Its ok to watch porn when the time is right, but if you’re putting the P on the Pedestal too much, you’re gonna choke. Don’t count your eggs before they’ve hatched and keep your eyes on getting the prize.
2. Since we’re all only human, we’re gonna break the first rule at some point or another. So when you do fantasize, fantasize about celebrities or porn stars, not someone you actually know. If the fantasy is unrealistic, it will have less power over you.
The Road to Venusian Artistry: Number Closing a Model
I did it, my first number close, and she happened to be a model for Heineken, and Hawaiian Tropic!
So this past week I have been working my ass off at bar-tending school, and I figured since I was surrounded by gorgeous ladies anyway, I might as well practice and try to learn something. From the beginning I made sure to have the strongest frame, the most confidence, and the highest value out of everyone in the class; and let me tell you this shit works. If you want the nitty gritty call me or something, because there is way more to the story then I can type right now, but it ends like this.
This morning I got to class about 15 minutes early and both an 8.5 that did want me, and the model that does want me, were there. I walk in and the model lets out a deep breath and says something along the lines of “I don’t know why, but when you come in that door, I just feel so much more comfortable.” I respond by saying “sometimes I have that effect on people,” and she giggled and gave me a high five holding on to my hand after (major indicator of interest) and saying “your awesome.” At this point I had proven to everyone in the class that I was the prize. The guys knew it, and the girls were all over me. So after the first class session I went to lunch with the model, who other then being absolutely stunning, has a great personality. This was the third lunch we had gone to together, the second being alone together.
Now some background. She does have a boyfriend, and they are pretty serious, but my thinking was that even if nothing comes of this, if I can make a model like me, I can make any girl like me.
I know I am jumping around a bit, but I have not slept well in a week, and I am excited as hell. Basically in the end I was taking my final test when the model was leaving, and we had already discussed exchanging numbers so we could hang out some more, but I had not gotten it yet. So, before she leaves she sits down and I hear her rip off a piece of paper and write on it, and sure enough she walks over to me hands it to me with a huge smile and then leaves.
Well it was a great week, and I realized that my new pursuit of the venusian arts has actually really changed me as a person. In only three weeks I have really come a long way in my inner game, and I have started working on my outer game. I don’t have time to explain the whole week now, but I really am proud of how I handled the unique situation of bar-tending school.
My last point is that the game fucking works. I am about 5′10″ and currently like 285lbs. and in addition to getting a model’s number I had another girl who was pretty much just as hot (nicer tits, lacking in the ass though) hand me a towel by putting it in her belt loop and thrusting her hips toward me.
In the end, I am progressing every day, and I will leave you with a couple tips that have literally changed my life.
1. Eye contact, whether male or female, when you are talking to someone, look them in the eyes. Practice by staring in the mirror for a few hours to stop any wavering (girls do notice this). This works wonders, girls are used to people staring at their bodies when talking. It seems ridiculous, but I would make eye contact with a girl when she was making a drink, and she would almost be locked in a trance. When the contact was broken she would usually have forgotten what she was making. I personaly think this is incredibly sexy.
2. Don’t be a bitch. Don’t be afraid to say no, argue, or have a different opinion than the girl, she will respect you more.
3. If a girl does not like you, she is not a bitch, you did something wrong! This is very important!
Well I am going to crash, I have a lot more to say, but I am going to leave it here. Please comment if you have any questions, I realize this post is very jumbled, but I am too lazy to fix it.
Thanks for reading,
Chronic
